2015 Coming to an end!

I can't believe it's almost the end of December! I have not posted in awhile on account of time getting away from me! 

I picked up some more work so I am even busier than before. Which is good busy keeps me out of trouble, right?!  Anyways, we are having our third snow storm of the season. I love pretty white snow but there comes a point when enough is enough :). 

I hope you all reading this had a great Christmas and got to spend some quality time with loved ones! The best time of year they say! 

Oh also our house project is pretty much complete! Just a few odds and ends to finish but it finally looks complete! So nice to finally have that done! Now my husband is doing some work on the side to keep himself busy! 

I still do not have any of the main social media, the ones I do have are anarchy and Pinterest if you can call that social media. While there are things I miss about having Facebook, Instagram and Twitter I can't say I've missed it so much I can't live without, like I thought in the beginning. It's actually very refreshing to just spend time with my family at night and not constantly scrolling on my phone! I must also say my husband is quite impressed that I don't have it :) Which of course makes me happy! 

Have you worked on New Years resolutions yet? Have you accomplished ones made for the current year? Are you impressed with your progress on your resolutions for this year? I just made my list out last night! One for personal and one for the business standpoint! I might just share them tomorrow!!! I have both kids in bed and I say this time and time again. I should really go to bed early once when I have them in bed on time! By golly I think I'm going to do it tonight!

I hope you all have a wonderful night and in case life happens and I do not have a chance to get back on here before the new year rolls in, HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

Type soon!! Ta ta!

Fall!

Oh yay! The weather is changing and Fall is closer to being here!!! I must say I LOVE summer! It is very nice to have a variety though! I love doing the physical work of each season! Mowing in the Summer, Scooping snow in the Winter. So nice to get outside and be active! My husband does construction and I'm jealous of how much he gets to work outside, I would love to have a job where I was outside 80% of the time!

We also got a lot more accomplished on our house project this weekend!!! The light at the end of this tunnel is getting so close!! Tomorrow starts another work week! Unfortunately my kids didn't get to bed as early as I would of liked but hey maybe they will wake up in good moods?! I hope so for the daycare's sake! Also my oldest has school pictures already this week! Wow they don't waste anytime! We also have family pictures this coming weekend. Hoping everything works out for us! We were supposed to take them two weeks ago but really wanted to finish the project at hand so had to reschedule. And of course the weather could not of been more perfect as well as my kids where seriously in the best moods. Imagine that. Anyway, it's another short one today my phone is almost dead and my laptop is dead! Maybe I'll be able to get on tomorrow and write a bit of a longer one!!! Type soon! Thanks for stopping by! 

It's Sunday Again!

Sunday again which means blog time!!! Hip Hip HOORAY :D

So we are one step closer to being done with this house project! Siding is completely on! Now we need to calk everywhere, and repaint it all!  Then get some gutters and lights on and the outside will be done! Now do we even talk about the inside??? Not today we won't :). I hope you all had a good weekend!! I'm still going strong with the whole no social media thing! Pretty darn proud of myself!!! I get a lot more done during the day! Not to mention I misplace my phone oh I don't know about 10 times a day! You would think it would be easier not to lose with how big it is. Anyway!

So as you probably know if you have read any recent posts I clean houses for a living, well I also am trying to help a client get to the point where she doesn't have clutter and everything is organized and in it's spot or atleast has a "forever" home in her home!! Which made my brain activate. Guess what! I found something I really want to try!! Not that I'm unorganized or full of clutter or anything, just thought I would give a tiny bit of background to how I started looking at websites, blogs, etc.

     Not sure if any of you are interested in being or getting organized but I found this nifty little website that offers a free mini class to help you set up your own family command center binder. If your unaware of what command center binder is, it's basically all your important papers that you can't really file away because you need to look at them frequently or atleast need them within an arms reach. Well with a "command center binder" its all right in the binder, as long as you have the binder organized and in the same spot after every use, everyone in your household can quickly get ahold of what they need, when they need it without destroying your filing cabinet, or calling you at work 4 times because they still can't find it! Sounds amazing huh?!? Well want to check it out? Simply go to www.simplify101.com/ and go to the "Start Here" tab and read on solider! I'm excited to do it!!! :) It's a free mini class and you have up to six months from when you register to use all the cool tools, website and watch the videos etc. I'm trying to talk one of my good well great friends into doing it with me! Because of course it's more fun with someone, not to mention someone I talk to more than on a regular basis. You know who you are! :)

Now that I started on that topic, time to go off on a tangent, so there you are, well warned of what I'm PLANNING on doing. A tangent. So I really need to be thankful for the time when I did photography.  As I've said many times, I loved taking the pictures and seeing the end result. The editing oh the editing, that ruined it. Sitting in front of the computer for hours and hours on end, to make the picture look very balanced, beautiful, and clear. That is one thing I will never ever miss!!! If I had not started the photography thing, I would not of met a lot of people I am thankful for everyday. As you might guess one of them is the one I'm trying to get to take this class with me. We hit it off right away, she is so down to earth and laid back, and we find each other confiding with each other as well as laughing about silly, serious and just plain stupid things. It's truly great, she knows more about my work, and everyday life than a lot of people, maybe even more than my husband. Which is okay, I'm not saying he doesn't pay attention (he doesn't) or anything. It's just nice to have someone to refer to or if you are wondering if a situation is normal or if I'm overreacting and being a huge "B" (hey everyone can be, and everyone has their days as well as their limits). Quite frankly sometimes you just need to know when your overreacting or if you need to stop take a deep breath and reassess the situation, instead of making it worse. Sometimes it's just better to look at each other and laugh until your not upset anymore!! :D

Which brings me to my next person, so still sort of on the same tangent. How many of you just like to see if your husband or kids, etc act a certain way or how do you deal with it. OR how do THEY deal with it more-less?? I for one am usually wondering does every two year old girl scream at the top of her lungs until she gets her way? If so, does every mother of a two year old girl give her what she wants? Because I do NOT do that, she can scream all day long I will not surrender, I may compromise but I will not surrender! Anyways so If it wasn't for my husband (see I love him ;) ) I wouldn't know his cousins, that I also talk to pretty much everyday. And we have sometimes had 14 minute Voxer's to each other. Our husbands are so alike I wonder how we ended up with them (the husbands).  But we also try to better each other, right now we are trying to do the 7 days of marriage wisdom together, which yes it's hard. But in all honesty I think I was in such a habit of always taking my frustration, stress and anger out on him ( again he does NOT deserve that - like ever - but what's a girl to do ;) .. kidding).  So it's good for me to try and be better for him and to him. This cousin in law was on the same page, so why not do it together?! She is a great person also, does more than her fair share of work around their house and definitely helps bring something to the table. Again so nice to have someone like her to confide in!!!

I have learned a lot from both of the ladies in this post and quite frankly couldn't imagine what I would do with out them, besides loose my sanity (again kidding - sorta ;) ). I have a few others I'd like to talk about and share how we met and everything, but maybe that will be the next blog! :) Type again soon I hope! Thanks for stopping by!!

Refreshed!

I must say not having social media has been quite refreshing! It is such a habit! I would check Facebook & Instagram probably 130 times a day no joke, wouldn't post anything just open it and scroll, scroll, scroll and scroll some more. The first day I didn't have it is when I noticed it so much how much I just do it out of habit. Have you realized how much I have gotten done with out social media!

It's crazy awesome! 

Today is Labor Day and we got a lot accomplished on our house! At this point anything is a lot! It's getting darker earlier now and that doesn't leave much time after we get home from work to get everything out and set up and get anything done. So basically any free day we have we go to town on the siding. Today we had some help from some family members! The husband's cousin and also the husband's brother's girlfriend, who by the way I love! She is so sweet and great with kids and always jumps right in and helps! It was lovely having them both around today! I can only hope we can get as much done this coming weekend! 

Anyways hope everyone enjoyed the Labor Day holiday! I'll try to write again soon!!

Stay Positive

It's me again!!!! I happen to love my sundays!!! Usually it's my catch-up day since the busy week work and trying to get the house project done. But it's also just a little less hectic since we don't go anywhere and don't spend any money on Sunday's.

Anyways! I also seem to find this blog thing pretty relaxing! I should be doing some other more productive things! My house needs my attention, my business paperwork needs to be done, laundry could be started and a whole list of things.  Also it will be there tomorrow and the next day so what is wrong with taking a few hours to watch your favorite show, type up a blog, garden, spend time with kids and family, or catching up with an old friend?? Your work will always be there and everyone needs some time to just chill!! So I dare whoever is reading this to start a timer for 60 to 90 minutes and do something that that you really enjoy!!! RELAX AND ENJOY LIFE a little bit!!!

This brings up another topic I throughly believe in.  Surround yourself with positive/like minded people. This quote means so much to me. I for one have realized if I'm around a person who thinks negative all the time about every topic, I tend to have the same mindset. So I try so hard to always think of the positive in every situation. Yes, granted there are certain situations that is almost next to impossible to find a positive, but you have to think and try as hard as you can to find the positive.

I also noticed if I think positive I have a much more positive outlook on the rest of my day, my family and friends and my own self expectations. So like earlier when I said I "should be doing some other more productive things!" That is a very true and valid point, but if I do not take some time for myself, I'm just going to end up the biggest crab-butt ever, which means my husband will most likely get the brunt of it. Which is not what he is there for.

Which brings me to my next point. My husband is supposed to be there to support me, love me and be by my side through anything and everything. Although sometimes he is just as much a child as our children, I wouldn't change it for the world. When we first got married (yes not very long ago-6 years) I wanted nothing more than to take care of him, whether he was sick, hungry, tired, had sore muscles, needed a haircut, wanted snacks for work or wanted his lunch packed before he left in the mornings. I was up for it and would do anything for him. It's funny how when you live with someone and grow with them how things change.  Kids also change things, because unlike my husband kids are very dependent on someone to help them. Where my husband is very capable of doing almost everything for himself. So the positive would be when I started to do all the things l really did WANT to and I did ENJOY it, and he knew that I loved doing all those things. So he let's me do them, thinking I still love doing it, which I don't mind but I also have two little ones that really need my help. I do appreciate that he let's me do it all because he knew how much I liked doing it, and it IS getting easier as my kids get older and do not need me as much as they used to, see a light at the end of the tunnel. My oldest starts school in a few days and I miss him needing me but then again I love watching him grow up and become his own little person!! I also need to work much harder on treating my husband better! Since starting to work more hours every week, the house project, kids and just the everyday stress of life, I think I might of lost who I was when we got married, and that's not fair to him. I should NOT and will NOT take it out on him anymore, it's not his fault. So my goal this week is to no matter how hard each day is, to give him the best of me, not whats left of me at the end of the day!!

Well this is all for today!! Hope you all have a great Labor Day weekend!! Thanks for reading!

Hello!!

Hello Everyone,
Again it has been awhile since I've been on here! Life is so crazy busy and I need to get into the habit of posting on here more often!! Anyways a lot has been going on in my life, my oldest starts preschool next week! I went from babysitting for a few families last year to cleaning houses full time. Which I do love cleaning, the income is a little better than the babysitting, but just something about watching kids grow up and become their own little person, makes me miss the babysitting!

Anyways I have gotten back into the full swing of working out and eating better. Some days go great and some days are not so great, but I am human and I am NOT perfect. I will always be a work in progress and the best I can do is be the best I can be!!!

We are also remodeling our house and we can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel!! We have to install the siding, gutters and exterior lights before winter gets here, so hopefully if we keep busting our butts we will get finished and able to enjoy the finished look!! I also have a few things extra that I want to get done before winter, like moving our hideous garden shed out of the middle of our lawn and put in backyard. I really want to drag our yard also, since we had a cement truck this past spring and the ground was super wet we have huge ruts in our lawn, makes mowing extra hard!

I am also back on the kick of no social media, it's just so nice to clear my life of all the clutter and time wasting that comes with all the social media!! We will see how long it lasts this time! But I'm hoping to be posting more often on here! I would really like to try and post at least once a week!!

As always I'm busy busy busy, and only have time for a short one today, hope to write again soon!!!
Talk soon!!

A little more about me..

Hey everyone! Sorry that last post was kind of a ranting one, I'll start this one of in a better atmosphere!!! So the last one was ment to tell you how I met certain people that impacted my life and I went off on a tangent! Sorry about that.

Anyway in high school since my parents where very strict with me I didn't get to go out with friends all the time, I also didn't get to do what I wanted when I wanted. Which now I see that made me a better person in the end, but man it sure sucked at the time. For that I thank my parents for EVERYTHING they did for me, grounding me all those times, saying no when friends asked me to go out. Honestly sometimes I just didn't feel like going out and I was kinda hoping they would say no. Terrible I know.

Another person that I am very thankful to have in my life was my great, wonderful friend that lived on the same street. We've been through alot in our 12 year friendship. First off she never judged and trust me the first time she met me she shoulda judged by how funny I was dressed! (I'm not meaning anyone should judge or be judged I'm just saying I was in a very weird range of clothing at that time).
Any ways, we met thru a friend and we clicked almost instantly, it didn't take long before we were practically inseperable. That time of my life was one of the best 6 years of my life, then college came and we grew distant for a little bit, but eventually we caught up with each other again when I moved out of my parents house. Life was busy for the both of us, one of us in college with a baby and the other working and spending way to much time with her boyfriend( more on him in a later post).  Basically I started seeing waaaaaay to much of the bf than I did with my friend (first mistake) ha and she always told me she didn't fully trust him and I should of listened to her!! She was my sister basically, but no I was young and quite frankly stupid (thought I was in love).  I ended up moving back to my hometown and then we never really talked much, I got engaged and was dying to have her as my photographer for my wedding and then my fiancee's sister in law was already told she could take pictures (by my fiancee) and the SIL(sister in law) ended up saying that no one else was allowed to take candid pictures because her(SIL's) mother was going to be there to help with that and she didn't want anyone else getting in the way. Well you can imagine my lifelong friend didn't take that well... and since I didn't(still don't ) have backbone, I didn't have the nerve to stand up for myself or my friend and say (darnit it's my wedding, if I want my BEST friend to take my candids she's going to!) anything, i just bit my lip and felt very sad for having to tell my friend that I couldn't have her take pictures. That also put quite a bit of distance between us, which at the time I was still in the "in love" mindset (which by the way out of all the people that have ventured into and out of my life he's hurt me the most).  Eventually we ended up talking again somehow, not quite sure how this all came about but I don't care I'm so glad she is in my life, I have no idea where I would be with out her!!! For some one to be treated like she was and still be by my side today means so much, if she ever reads this I want her to know, I am very sorry for being such a love struck teenager and treating you that way, obviously I regret the crud out of it!!! You've helped me in so many ways you don't even know, so THANK YOU for being there!!! i.heart.you. :D

Another person I'm glad I met was another friend from my high school years, her and I became good friends when all of her other "friends" stabbed her in the back. I appreciate her as well she had alot going on in her life and she always came to me with her problems and I tried helping her the best that I could, which was a little difficult, since I had never been through what she had. But I think her issues and my strict parents helped us bond a little bit, she didn't have a fatherly figure in her life and I didn't really have a motherly figure so to speak of. When I started dating that bf though I basically blew everyone off to be with him, which in turned put a great deal of distance in between us and we don't really talk anymore, BUT she did teach me alot; my life could be alot tougher and deal with your speed bumps in your own way!

Okay I bet your all dying to hear about this "oh so wonderful" boyfriend I keep talking about...... Well should I start at the beginning? Obviously! Haha well I met him at my part time high school job, he would come in every friday in baseball uniform get up and I thought he was the sexiest man I've ever seen (besides movies stars like zac efron ;P). Anyway he would always flirt with me saying I should go see him play softball, and I always wanted to but at that point and time I would of never been allowed to and I didn't know him at all! I just knew he was nice to look at :P.  Anyway a joke was that I told him to kidnap me sometime and take me with him to his game.. and he just smiled with his gorgeous straight pearly whites, and baby blue eyes. Well one day on my way out of the house to work there was a note on my car that said call me and a number, VERY hesitant I did NOT text the number for a few days, after I did I found out it was him. My stepmom's mother worked at the same place as I did and she heard things about this boy and relayed them to my dad and stepmom which in turn made them NOT APPROVE of him. (again shoulda listened!)

       Eventually I was allowed to date him and then I basically spent every free moment with him, and there were alot of red flags, like when he asked me to date him basically I was amazed he wanted to so of course I said yes ( this was after we had hang out quite a few times) he asked me through text and after I replied with yes, he said "okay well I have to ask another girl first"........... YEA! I was like what?! What a way to break my heart. Then I'll just say this I wanted to be abstinent until marriage, well he basically forced it on me :( and I cried afterwards I just felt like I let myself down and my parents :( :( but he didn't have any sympathy. The list goes on, when I lived with my friend(the first one I told you about) he would come up and see me and he would text me saying he's leaving (the town he lived was about 40 mins from where I lived) and he wouldn't show up at my friends place for almost 2 hours sometimes and I was dumb and never thought about it but now I always am wondering what he was doing all those times, he came up at least 3-4 times a week. Then the day after he asked me to marry him I found out he was talking to girls on facebook and getting their numbers and asking them to meet his family!! Very sad girl after that, I couldnt stand it anymore I flipped out threw his ring at him and said we're done. He ended up talking me out of leaving, and I'm not sure if it was because he was the first/only man I had been with intimately or what it was. Anyways a few months later same thing he was texting a girl (from facebook) with intimate pictures and calling her names like baby, honey, sweetheart (which he used to call me then one day he just stopped). Again I threatened to leave, and yet again he somehow got me to believe he would quit. Yet again 3 months after we got married I found another girl through playstation network that had been messaging him etc. I was through I packed my things and went out to my dads house for two weeks, i wouldn't answer his phone calls or texts, eventually he figured out where i was and came out there and he once again promised to quit, which knock on wood I haven't had to go through that again, but there were plenty of other issues.  I lost ALL and I mean ALL trust for him, if he wasn't at work I was paranoid he was with another girl, and that last for about 2 1/2 years and then I had to change my way of thinking because there is now way I was going to live like that for the rest of my life so I SLOWLY started to trust him.

    I am now almost back to fully trusting him, it's very hard though. I should of just left for good the first time I know, but I didn't and now we have 2 children and this year will be our 5th anniversary. It's not the same though, the deep love I once had for him I don't and I never will. I often think of what it would be like to be with someone else who truly makes me happy.  Then again I would never leave him, I don't like divorce and I definitely won't put my kids through what my siblings and I had to go through, but is it to much to ask to show affection every now and then (from him)??

    We got into a huge fight the beginning of this year and he wanted me to get along with his family better (i told his mom the whole story of him and she said "oh im sure he didn't mean anything by it" WHAT he was getting pictures of some Alexis chick's chest area!? Yea it's been hard for me to like his family ha. I had been a huge bitch to him the past couple years I am just sick of his crap, staying at work after he's done working to drink beer, instead of coming home to his family. Going out with a guy from work (who I don't trust) most weeknights and weekends after I get home from work. So I've been working on being nicer, getting along with his family and trying not to be so uptight. But I asked him to treat me how he did right after we started dating etc, this is so sad it's true but he treated be WAY better while he was messing around on me then when it's just me. :( Anyways on a happy note I LOOOVE my children and wouldn't give them up for the world, I just shoulda paid more attention back then, ya know!?

There is a few others I'm pretty thankful to have in my life and they are his (husband's) cousins, so I think if I would leave him or if we weren't together, I would of never met them and would never know what I missed out on, I talk to them almost everyday and we all help each other from issues we're having to personal questions, to what clothes to wear for pictures. It's nice and helps me keep my sanity! But I think I have jabbered on enough for one day!!!! :) Until next week!